Is Negative Body Image Hurting Your Marriage? Do you see yourself as “too fat” or “too thin” for sex
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Many of us, at some point in their lives, experience negative body image. It’s very difficult to feel beautiful and sexy when we are bombarded daily with altered and unrealistic images of women’s and men’s bodies. Lack of self-confidence and poor body image can get in the way of intimacy.
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Body image has nothing to do with how your body looks. You may be a successful person with many friends and in a relationship with someone who sees you attractive but still think you are not good enough because of a thwarted self-image.
A negative body image can have a profound impact on your confidence and your marriage. Effect of body image on sex One strong component of sexual satisfaction is being comfortable in one’s skin. If you’ve convinced yourself that you’re unattractive, it will be difficult for you to enjoy sexual intimacy.
When your negative body image kicks in during sex, you will focused on and anxious about sucking in your tummy, hiding your saggy breasts or turning the lights off to hide your body. These thoughts and actions lead to dissatisfaction – in and outside of the bedroom.
People with negative body image tend to:
1. Experiment less: Because you think your butt, thighs [you name it] are too big or too small, you experiment less in the bedroom and feel restrained and burdened instead of free and relaxed
2. Insist that the lights be off: You feel terrible about yourself and figure that your partner would not want to see “these ugly parts” so you always insist on turning the lights off
3. Complain a lot: “I am fat,” “I don’t look good in this” and “Don’t touch this part of me” all add up and slowly erode your self-esteem and kill your sex life